Marriage Advice

Marriage Advice From Our Guests

Newlyweds often inquire as to what the most difficult year is in marriage. The true answer is, the current year. Each day is a give and take type of day. Love will grow as you learn more about each other. Never take your spouse for granted.

~Joe and Eileen Aleo, Married for 37 years

Always be kind and considerate of one another.

~Mr. and Mrs. Michael Amico

We jus celebrated 35 years together. We have learned that the most important things in a relationship involve mutual respect and constant, open communication. Hugs are really good too! Good Luck!

Nikki and Ken

May your marriage bond be a strong one made of respect for one another. Remember the reason you chose each other forever. Remember your smiles of young love shared between the two of you. Keep that picture in your mind forever. Hold on tight for the wonderful ride of your life and don’t let go. God’s blessings to the both of you!!

Love, Earl and Deb

Try to get away at least once a month. Romantic rituals are simple actions that acknowledge he cares about her and she appreciates him (flowers, hugs, opening doors, thank yous). Develop these and keep doing them for each other. Do little things for each other. Remain individuals. Hug. Cuddle. Snuggle and touch daily. Laugh together. Listen to your partner. Have fun together.

~Pam Bock

Greet each day with a smile. End it with loving thoughts.

~Uncle John & Aunt Betty

Dick and I feel we can be a great help with advice. We have been married 52 years. Our marriage has been wonderful. We have had ups and downs like any married couple. Our early years were spent on the farm. We had two years of separation due to the Korean and Vietnam Wars. The separation really made us appreciate each other more than words can say. After the service we worked and lived a city life. We were able to purchase Grampa Brooks’ part of the farm, and later, Dicks’ dads’ share. Our children came after 11 years of marriage. What a joy they have been to us. This makes love and marriage complete to have a family. The early years were so busy with family to enjoy and farming to do. We all grew together. We always kept our promise to the children if we made one. Don’t be afraid to compliment each other when one does well. We all have received many awards and compliments on our endeavors as a family. As we age and enjoy our 4 beautiful grandchildren we know God has blessed and rewarded us well. Allison and Rich, always love, respect, communicate, and share with family your many blessings. Don’t be afraid to say “I love you”. Dick and I wish you many years of happiness together because you will always be a friend and companion to each other. God Bless You Both on this Your Day October 4, 2003.

~All our love always, Muriel and Dick Brooks

“Never go to bed angry with each other. Not ever!”

Mr. & Mrs. Joseph Caccamise, Jr.

Vi auguriamo una vita piena di felicita’. Auguri.

(We wish you a life full of happiness. Congratulations.)

~Stella and Christopher Calabrese

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times with the same person. It is much more than finding the right person, it is being the right person. Treat each day together as a gift and an adventure. Friendship is the cement that holds a relationship together. It takes imagination to make a relationship flourish. Happiness is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it. A relationship that grows from mutual love and respect, kindness, understanding and compassion is strong enough to last a lifetime. Love is sharing all of the wonderful things life has to offer with the person you care the most about. Best Wishes. God bless you.

~from Amy and Louie Callari

As your lives become more busy and hectic, always remember to have QUALITY time alone together. Communication is a wonderful thing. Use it constantly. May God bless your marriage. Be happy!!!

~Fondly, Paul & Mary Ann Carletta

Never go to sleep mad at each other.

~Aunt Ruth

50 Promises for Marriage

1. Start each day with a kiss. 2. Wear your wedding ring at all times. 3. Date once a week. 4. Accept differences. 5. Be polite. 6. Be gentle. 7. Give gifts. 8. Smile often. 9. Touch. 10. Talk about dreams. 11. Select a song that can be “our song.” 12. Give back rubs. 13. Laugh together. 14. Send a card for no reason. 15. Do what the other person wants before he or she asks. 16. Listen. 17. Encourage. 18. Do it his or her way. 19. Know his or her needs. 20. Fix the other person’s breakfast. 21. Compliment twice a day. 22. Call during the day. 23. Slow down. 24. Hold hands. 25. Cuddle. 26. Ask for each other’s opinion. 27. Show respect. 28. Welcome the other person home. 29. Look your best. 30. Wink at each other. 31. Celebrate birthdays in a big way. 32. Apologize. 33. Forgive. 34. Set up a romantic getaway. 35. Ask, “What can I do to make you happier?” 36. Be positive. 37. Be kind. 38. Be vulnerable. 39. Respond quickly to the other person’s requests. 40. Talk about your love. 41. Reminisce about your favorite times together. 42. Treat each other’s friends and relatives with courtesy. 43. Send flowers every Valentine’s Day and anniversary. 44. Admit when wrong. 45. Be sensitive to each other’s sexual desires. 46. Pray for each other daily. 47. Watch sunsets together. 48. Say “I love you” frequently. 49. End the day with a hug. 50. Seek outside help when needed. ~Steve Stephens

~Mr. & Mrs. Ken Corpus

Listen and be kind to one another. Best Wishes.

~Kathy and Bob Cuthbert

Helpful Advice:

While the day of your marriage is still with you, make a recording of yourself to yourself about the love and hope you are feeling now, and make believe that the person you are telling it to already forgot. Be convincing! This can be a secret weapon for years later during challenging times, or on a special occasion like an anniversary. Don’t listen to each other’s. This is your relationship. Make all your own goals and dreams come true together. Sometimes you will need to hear your own voice stronger than others. I wish you many happy years together.

~Louis

Now you have started a new family. Be true to yourselves. Keep communications open.

~Love, Alberta (Mom)

Have Patience & Perseverance and it will carry you through thick and thin.

~Love, Dick

Keep your faith, love and laughter always a part of your marriage. Love each other, and any children you may have, unconditionally! Be Happy!

~Love, Aunt Chris and Uncle Gerry

Never go to bed angry.

~Dee Dee and Gerry DiMarco

Make Rich sing you the TEФ Sweetheart song at least a couple of times each year! It’s wonderful for the romance and great to see them down on one knee!!

~Love from, One Sweetheart of TEФ to another!!

~Suzanne Dowling

Never go to sleep angry and always kiss before sleeping.

~Mr. & Mrs. Dominick Fantauzzo

Work together as a team so you can both celebrate your successes and comfort each other in difficult times.

~Love, Kevin and Cindy Fantauzzo

It takes both rain and sunshine to make a rainbow!! One reason for doing the right thing today---is tomorrow! Sometimes you’ve got to go out on a limb. Isn’t that where the fruit is??

~Mary Ferro

Remember to be patient with one another. Talk things over. Marriage takes a lot of work and understanding. Most of all, love each other to the fullest.

~Mrs. Fornuto & Mr. DeLeo

My father told me when I was a child: “When you love someone, you try to make their life easier.” Simple advice but I’ve never forgotten it. Congratulations!

~Dea

“…love is the greatest and most sublime force of the universe. Through love the divine qualities of God will shine like the radiant light of the morning sun.”

-Paul Twitchell from Stranger by the River

~Karin Glenn

Surprises in marriage are what keep it exciting. Love notes under the pillow. Roses for no special occasion. Be creative, and with a little effort it’s amazing what you can think of. Many years ago I saw a movie starring Natalie Wood and Robert Wagner – it gave me a great idea. Your turn!

~Mr. & Mrs. Ron Guarino

Eat dinner at the table, candles are not just for special occasions.

~Kathleen Henchen

Dean and I have been married for 38 years and we have laughed and cried together and enjoyed each other’s company all of this time. One thing we have always felt was necessary,, was to do things together whether it’s cleaning the house, watching a movie, playing golf or whatever. It’s important to do things as a couple – even when you have children – take time to do things together! You will continue to grow.

~Jo Henty

“Love is patient, ,love is kind… It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” ~1 Corinthians 13:4-8

~Mr. & Mrs. Christopher Holdridge

Listen to your spouse with both ears and both eyes, and don’t interrupt the one who is speaking. This is respect and kindness for each other.

~Jini Horton

Always remember what attracted you to your spouse and why you fell in love!

~Mr. & Mrs. James Hotaling

Always make each other number one. ~Mr. & Mrs. Kenneth Howell

“And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and cypress grow not in each other’s shadow”

~Kahlil Gibran

And here’s a more light-hearted one…

“It doesn’t matter how your husband squeezes the toothpaste,

the important thing is how he squeezes you.”

~Unknown

~Christine Jandreau

Communicate! Share your feelings whether sad, angry, happy or glad.

Never be afraid to say, “I’m sorry.” Say “I love you” often.

~Mr. & Mrs. Jake Johnson

Always stay friends & share every thought! Always tell each other that you love them. Never be selfish. Share household chores. Be willing to say you’re sorry, if necessary.

~Mr. & Mrs. John Julian

Unconditional love lasts forever from this life…to the next. This is God’s gift to us. Embrace and love each other to the fullest with trust and faith in Him. A blessing to you both. ~Ms. Rose Marie Linton

Agree to disagree.

~Mr. & Mrs. Livingston

May you run more miles together than you spend hours apart!

~Mr. & Mrs. Brad Matthews

Respect each other with continuous love and support. Always remember that you and the family you create together are your #1 priority in life. Hear the sound of laughter throughout your home and see the joy in even the simplest things in life. But most of all, we hope you both always feel the love you have for each other now and have the sparkle we see in your eyes, 25 years from now!

Allison ~ Remember what I told you when we got back from New Orleans? I said you were the one Rich would marry… Karen, I do remember ☺!

~Mr. & Mrs. Mark McCrea

Live each day like it is your last, and live each night like it is your first!

~Mrs. Pam Mead

Never go to bed angry. Plan a special Saturday night “date” for each other. Compromise. Say “I love you” every day. Don’t hog the covers. Best wishes for a long, happy, and healthy life together!

~XXOO Jane and Rob

One little tip I always remember about young married life is this~ At the end of every day – no matter what words have been spoken – just as you are about to fall off to sleep – reach for and hold each other’s hand. You will stay united in spirit and be peaceful.

~Love to you Both, Aunt Donna

Always remember your wedding day! That day is so precious, that you should treat every day after like your wedding day, and you will always be happy and smiling ☺! We cannot wait for this day!

~Lots of Love, Rachel and Michael

Live ♥ Love ♥ Laugh ♥ ~John and Gail Nowicki

Love is not a matter of counting the years, it’s making the years count. May you have many years of happiness. Love is heaven and heaven is love. Love is patient, love is kind. ~Mrs. Betty Porter

~Marriage Takes Three~

I once thought marriage took just two to make a go but now I am convinced it takes the Lord also. Where Christ is asked to enter as lovers come together with Jesus as the center love will last forever. But marriage seldom thrives and homes are incomplete till He is welcomed there to help avoid defeat. In homes where Christ is first it’s obvious to see those unions really work for marriage still takes three.

~Sharon and Jed Powers

Surprise each other OFTEN! It keeps your marriage fun, and shows you have thought about what the other enjoys. For example, unexpected notes, compliments, gifts, practical jokes and vacations!

~Mr. and Mrs. Evan and Michelle Sahmel

“”Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered. It keeps no record or wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” ~1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Allison and Richard, I think that many people associate these words (from Corinthians) with the marriage ceremony and don’t consider them to be the cornerstone of marriage. I hope that these powerful verses will be as meaningful to you in the coming years as they have been to me. Read them slowly and often ~ they have a way of keeping one “grounded” in times of joy and stress. I have had a copy hanging on my refrigerator for as long as I can remember.

~With Love, Kathy Sarafino

Remember to share your dreams and expectations. Talk to each other. Above all things…Love each other. Respect change…it will happen. Respect your differences and love each other at all costs. ~Love, Erika

May God give you health and happiness together for many years to come.

~Julie

Never go to bed mad at each other. “May your marriage be born of love, nurtured by patience, kept by compassion and known by joy.”

~Steven Schultz

We laughed, we cried, we disagreed, we made up. We learned to listen, trust, forgive, laugh and dream, but most important we learned to trust God and to pray.

~Mr. & Mrs. Clarence Shull

No one is perfect – admit when you are wrong and apologize.

~Mr. and Mrs. Frank Sidare

Marriage is not a word; it is a sentence.

I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared

for marriage. They’ve experienced pain and have bought jewelry.

~Mr. & Mrs. Samuel Simone

Remember that men and women have different wants and needs. Try to always consider where your spouse is coming from and respect those wants and needs.

~Mr. & Mrs. Anthony Soprano

We have been married 53 years and we have found mutual respect for each others opinions and differences help to make a good relationship. The age old saying, “Don’t go to bed angry” still holds true and don’t be too proud to say “I’m sorry.” Loving and caring for one another’s families also makes a happy marriage.

~Mr. and Mrs. Raymond Stenglein

Don’t sweat the small stuff and try to be calm when discussing the big stuff.

~Mr. & Mrs. Mike Tanea

Here’s a story of my parents: My father met my mother during wartime when he was in Philadelphia. But he was in the service, and knew he would be leaving soon. So nothing more than a few dates developed. Nine years later he happened to be there again and looked her up. They were married a year later, and just celebrated their 50^th anniversary!

~Linda Thompson

Each think and concern yourself with the other 70% of the time and yourself 30% of the time and all will go well. ~Dad

Listen to each other and be willing to give instead of take. Remember you are friends first, last, and always. Make God the center of your home.

~Love, Mary

Always keep your sense of humor – especially when the kids come along! Tom says (and I quote) Always do more for the other person than you do for yourself.

~Tom and Tricia ☺

And the boys say, “Have lots of kids so we have cousins to play with!”

~Jake and Ryan

Patience! Patience! Patience! Live a lot, love a lot! Laugh a lot! ~Patty & John

“He is happiest, be he king or peasant, who finds peace in his home.”

~Johann Von Goethe, German Poet and Writer

May your home together be filled with happiness and peace.

“If you can walk, you can dance. If you can talk, you can sing.”

~Zimbabwean Proverb

May you always find the time to dance and sing together. If times become stressful ever in your life perhaps dance & sing even more!

“Among those whom I like or admire I can find no common denominator. But among those I love, I can: all of them make me laugh.”

~W.H. Auben, English Poet

“Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.”

~Karen Kaiser Clark, American Legislator and Feminist

Always remember the laughter. It is truly our best cure for anything. God Bless you both. ~Susan and C.J. Urlaub

Have faith, be honest with each other, believe in God. Sit down and talk about a problem together, if harsh words come, get up and take a walk. The most important is “True LOVE.” ~God Bless, Mi Mi

Enjoy your wedding day! Take a few minutes to yourself and look at all the beautiful things around you… the church, reception, yourself! Stay calm & have fun! Life is too short to get caught up in the small stuff!!

~Mr. & Mrs. Shane Williams

The best advice I have heard is to not let little disagreements turn into big arguments. It’s important to get things out in the open. ~Julie Yacavone

Be true to yourself but love each other with all your heart & soul.

~Mr. & Mrs. Tom Yacavone

1. Live each day as if it could be your last! 2. Say nothing too hurtful that cannot be reversed. 3. Pick up after yourselves. 4. You marry the whole family; both sides. Accept all those little differences.

~xx Lynn Z

Appreciate every day together and never forget how blessed you are to have found each other.

~Bruce & Hope Zicari